Health Intuition

Romance is widely understood as the vital connection with the “special someone” who is or will become your life partner. The laws of attraction operate in a most tangible way when it comes to romance. 

If you are grumpy, unhappy, or very needy you are likely to attract those very qualities another person. This is true whether you are just meeting someone new or you have been with a partner for many years. 

To find the “right person” in someone else, find ways of being the best person you can possibly be. If you want to maintain a long-term romantic relationship with your lifelong partner, be as creative as possible in your daily life by examining each interaction with the person for its gifts and challenges. 

Bringing your wisdom and humor into the second half of life is a vital ally for enhancing your romantic relationship. 

Here are a few practical tips from the new field of energy psychology for maintaining your emotional balance and keeping the charge of vitality and romance alive in your most significant relationship. 

1. Learn from each interaction. After any interaction with the person you consider most significant ask yourself, “What happened just now? How could it have been better? What can I learn here?” 

2. Be honest with yourself. Instead of prevaricating about why something went wrong, simply acknowledge harmony did not prevail in that moment rather than blaming the other person or feeling hurt. 

3. Treat yourself by acknowledging your limitations in an interaction, “Even though ______ happened /or I wish I had not said_______, I deeply and profoundly accept myself and am learning to enhance my relationship skills.” 

4. Release negative emotions quickly by tapping the sides of the hands together while making your releasing statement, ” I now let go of my guilt/heaviness/ anger/disappointment.” 

5. Rebalance yourself. Emphatic downward movements over the whole body help stagnant energy to release more fully. Feel your center while holding the hands gently over the heart to comfort and affirm yourself. 

6. Apologize and forgive readily. You can certainly own your part in the conflicting situation. 

7. Make a peace offering. It might be a smile, a joke, a gesture, a sharing of food, a sentence about an unrelated but safe topic. 

8. Allow time for the significant person in your life to respond. Remember, the other person may process emotions at a different tempo. 

9. Celebrate reunion with touch. Remember there are many ways to connect intimately without engaging sexually. Share with each other how you can do things differently in the future. Staying engaged in a romantic relationships requires daily commitment and frequent “tune ups.” Nothing happens automatically. With practice, though, you can learn to follow your intuition about the best timing for sensitive issues and steadily learn what works best for both of you. 

Choosing to keep romance alive in our hearts is a great adventure and joy in healthy aging! 

For more helpful ideas about maintaining relationship health and vitality visit Dr. Dorothea’s website or purchase her most recent book, Second Chance at Your Dream (2009, Energy Psychology Press). www.secondchancedream.com

In recent years forensic psychology and related topics such as criminal profiling have been the subject of a whole host of books, films and television series. While this has undoubtedly raised the profile of forensic psychology, the subject has often been presented in a distorted, sensationalised and inaccurate way.

With this very much in mind, this article outlines what you need to be aware of in order to provide a satisfactory answer to the question, what is forensic psychology?

When my students arrived for their first lecture, I would always start by giving them 10 minutes to write down an answer to the question what is forensic psychology? Before reading on, why not quickly write down what you think forensic psychology is.

The reason I did this was because despite the fact that every single undergraduate psychology student (about 180 of them) chose to do the forensic psychology course, not one of them came to see me in advance to ask what the course was about. Now bear in mind students chose their optional courses well in advance of the start date, and in order to make an informed choice they were all strongly advised to speak to the lecturer running the courses they were interested in before making a final decision.

So why the no show?

I suspect, actually I know because I discussed it with the students afterwards, that they didn’t feel they had to find out what forensic psychology is, because they already had a preconceived idea.

I mentioned that at the start of the first lecture I would give students 10 minutes to write down an answer to the question what is forensic psychology. What I didn’t mention, however, is that after about 2 minutes I would ask for their attention and apologise for forgetting to tell them that they weren’t allowed to use the words serial killers or silence of the lambs in their answer. It was usually as this point that most of the writing in the lecture theatre stopped.

If you’re thinking I would have stopped writing as well, please contain your disappointment and don’t rush off just yet. The answer to the question, what is forensic psychology may not quite be what you thought, but that doesn’t mean that the subject has to be any less engaging.

The first thing to appreciate when addressing the question is that even psychologists in the field are divided as to what the answer is. The division of criminological and legal psychology within the British Psychological Society argued for twenty years as to whether their members should be entitled to call themselves Chartered Forensic Psychologists. It was finally agreed that they should, however, there still remains a great deal of debate and controversy surrounding the issue.

The central problem is that its members are drawn from a wide range of disciplines, so it is always difficult to state what the boundaries are when you talk of Forensic Psychology.

A fragmented discipline?

Psychologists in the prison/correctional services. Clinical psychologists in special hospitals & the psychiatric services. Educational psychologists. Occupational psychologists. Academics

Now while it is important to acknowledge that this fragmentation of role exists, it is just as important to realise that these different groups are linked to forensic psychology because their work, expert knowledge or research activity is somehow connected with the law.

This legal connection makes perfect sense when you consider that the word forensic comes from the Latin forensis, which literally means appertaining to the forum, specifically the imperial court of Rome. So in essence:

The debate as to what is and what isn’t forensic psychology rests primarily on the nature of psychology’s relationship with the legal system.

Let me give you an example, imagine 2 clinical psychologists meet at a conference and they begin talking about the work they do. The first psychologist tells the second that she recently gave expert testimony in court arguing that the defendant in a murder case was criminally insane; the judge and jury agreed and having been found guilty on the grounds of diminished responsibility the defendant was going to be sent to a secure psychiatric unit. Now there’s a coincidence the second psychologist says I work in the unit where they’re sending him, so I’ll be dealing and treating this guy when he arrives.

So here you have a situation where two psychologists are linked to the legal system by way of a legal decision and you could argue, therefore, that both deserve to be seen as engaging in Forensic Psychology. However, there’s a crucial difference.

The first psychologist actually helped inform the legal decision based on her psychological knowledge and expertise. The second psychologists’ involvement on the other hand arose as a consequence of a legal decision that she had no direct influence over.

My preferred forensic psychology definition acknowledges this key distinction, namely:

That branch of applied psychology which is concerned with the collection, examination and presentation of evidence for judicial purposes’ (Haward 1981).

If you adopt this definition you are stating categorically that Forensic Psychology relates to:

The provision of psychological information for the purpose of facilitating a legal decision (Blackburn 1996).

So in the case of our two psychologists, strictly speaking only the first can be said to be engaged in Forensic Psychology.

Not everybody would agree with this, because there is a school of thought that would claim that any activity that links psychology to the law deserves to be described as Forensic. I’m not going to try and convince you which is right, although I do have a strong opinion on the mater; the main thing is that you know that this debate exists.

Summary

In answering the question, what is forensic psychology we have discovered that:

In essence, forensic psychology refers to the application of psychology within a legal context.

The debate as to what is & what is not forensic psychology relates to the nature of this legal application & the level at which it is applied.

And this debate raises a number of questions that you need to think about. In particular:

The boundaries of forensic psychology?

The role of the forensic psychologist?

The credibility of forensic psychology.

To find out more about the fascinating world of forensic psychology visit www.all-about-forensic-psychology.com

Learning what causes dreams can be directly related to what is happening in our minds when we are asleep. In many cases people who are having many dreams have things in there lives that are causing them to dream and in many cases the answer is to resolve the issue that the person has. It is possible that we have suppressed the issue and it is coming out in our dreams. Some times the dreams we have are related to the issue and sometimes we have dreams that seem to be crazy or do not make a lot of sense.

Learn How To Get : Dream Interpretations

It is amazing that we can have so much power in our dreams and the meaning in them. Some dreams we have have deep meaning from our past and there might be an issue that needs attention so that you can resolve it. It is always a good idea to make a journal of your dreams so that you do not forget them. Sometimes we wake up and we can remember the dream but then later we try to recall it and have a hard time so make sure that you write your dreams down.

Learn How To Have : Dream Meaning

There are many thoughts when it comes to dream meaning such as falling refers to loss of control were you may have an issue with a co-worker and you can not control the situation. It is good to confront the issue head on so that you can resolve the dreams form occurring.

To get a restful night of sleep make sure you do not go to bed mad or with a lot of issues on your mind.